The marriage of Vietnamese people has strict rules ever. Weddings in the North, Central and South have a unique feature, bringing the customs and customs of each region.
Northern wedding ceremony
The wedding ceremony in the North must hold 3 ceremonies:
Dam lane: is the first meeting, the official family of two boys and girls, is considered necessary procedure for "adults" to talk to each other. After the marriage ceremony, the girl is considered to have a place, first step toward marriage.
Engagement ceremony: A rich or poor family cannot live without betel. A engagement ceremony of Hanoi people must have nuggets and roses. If the family is well-off, in addition to nuggets, persimmons and betel nut areca also has roasted suckling pig. The engagement ceremony map is associated with specialties of the regions such as nuggets of cereal, chayote, lotus jam, tea, wine, betel nut, tobacco, etc. Usually, intercourse includes 3 ceremonies: paternal and paternal , home.
Wedding ceremony: After asking for about 10 days, a wedding ceremony is held. In the past, the procession of the bride and groom had many procedures, leading the procession were the wealthy people in the village. When welcoming the bride to the top of the village, there is also a string ceremony, if you want to go through, you must give some money. Meals and parties take place 1 day before the wedding. The wedding starts with a wedding invitation, when the wedding invitation must be accompanied by tea and lotus seeds (taken from engagement ceremony). So far this process is still being withheld.
In the ceremony, the bride and groom must make an ancestor ceremony as a tribute to their ancestors. After the marriage ceremony, the couple returned to the girl's house to bring offerings to the family, called the ceremony. After that, the bride's parents officially came to the house of the bride because at the wedding, the bride's mother did not go to take the bride. Re-face ceremony usually takes place on the second or fourth day after the wedding (called a double happiness or four happy wedding).
Central wedding ceremony
The process of organizing weddings in the Central also has steps from touching the gate, asking the wedding, to vu quy. The Central wedding is usually simple, unobtrusive, but in each specific part, it is quite sophisticated with the concept of "respectful ceremony when (contempt)".
Before preparing for the wedding ceremony, people often see the good and bad times, sometimes go to the temple to ask the monks. After choosing a good time and date, the two sides will inform each other by a simple visit. This is sometimes done by young couples, but it must be two families with a prior friendship.
For the interviewing people, the Central people only see it as a meeting between two families and close relatives to introduce the young, no-frantic couple. Wedding ceremonies: asking for time, worshiping the bride, picking the bride takes place at the girl's house, welcoming the bride, reporting to the family's ancestors. Central people do not have custom wedding challenges. Minimum gifts include: betel nut plums, tea wine, red silk candles, spousal cakes. If the wealthy, the boys can add cream cakes, flexible cakes, no "roasted pigs go away" as many places. In addition, weddings in the Central region often have bridesmaids, groomsmen and two children are usually a boy, a girl of the same age holding a lamp or holding a flower first.
When bringing the bride, usually the girl's parents did not go with her, but the next day she went to the boy's house with the meaning of seeing her daughter on the first day of being a bride to be upset at her husband's house. In this meeting, the two interpreters responded politely, sent messages to each other, telling their children to negotiate with the family.
In the wedding room must have: a ceremony tray with 12 pieces of betel, salt plate, ginger and alcohol. Young people have to chew 12 betel pieces, representing 12 months of harmony in a year, 12 years of harmony in a lunar calendar. The consumption of salt and ginger carries folk colors, symbolizing passionate affection. The wine served in accordance with the old Chinese feudal ritual.
Currently, this ceremony has been reduced by many families in the Central. When picking up the bride, the girl's father follows the boys' home with another car, and the party will exchange with the groom's family. Three days after the wedding, the bride can return to her parents' house to clean up her belongings and start a new life at her husband's house.
The sophistication of the Central people at weddings is mainly in manners. No fuss, noisy, outrageous at weddings and parties. The marriage and presentation of the owner of the marriage, both parents are very fussy and not overlooked. Age of incompetent couple. The bridesmaids and groomsmen are unmarried people, wives, agile cheerfulness.
The arrangement of the wedding room must be prepared by an elderly, kind woman. Offering gifts to the bride and groom's family thanks to an elderly person, enough of their children, families and families to check. After the ceremony, the pair of pink candles were blown out by this person. The number of the bride's family going to pick the bride is always in the even. When picking up the bride, the groom's family often sends a couple of vivacious young men and their wives and children to stand ready to "get lucky" for their newlyweds.
Distinctive in Southern wedding
The main wedding ceremony is celebrated at the ancestor altar in the family. The altar must have enough "fruit-flavored incense." Gifts include: fruits, candies, betel and areca nuts. In addition, there must be a pair of lamps (candles) that match the size of the candlesticks on the altar. This is considered the cultural and sacred features of the Vietnamese people. The representative of the groom's family respectfully invited the girl's family for tea, wine, and betel nut. The two sides discussed together a few details, giving jewelry and cash. When the patriarch of the girl's family declared: "Please light the ceremony", the young couple officially became husband and wife.
Light up is an important and sacred ritual. Two large candles brought by the groom's family are placed on the altar of the grandparents. The patriarch opened a bottle of wine brought by his son's house to stand in front of the altar, between the bride and groom, waiting for the fire on the two candles to burn evenly, the patriarch gave the couple each side a candle to stick into the lampstand. . The lamp must be light and steady, if the side is high and low, there will be public opinion that the bridegroom will fear his wife and the bride will "be a husband".
The light-up ceremony has a strange solemnity with the meaning: fire is life, optimism, connecting the past to the present, the earth to the sky ... Therefore, this is a mandatory ritual impossible lacking in every wedding from the past to the present of the South.
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